Great list. I'd add one thing; no. I have a problem saying no and end up volunteering for too many things. Bad thing for a writer because it cuts into my precious writing time. Perhaps it's just a woman thing? My dh doesn't seem to have this problem. How about, "It's okay, I understand."
Great list - & I agree with Aimless Writer. I would definitely add learning to say NO. And, yes, I think it is a woman thing because my dh also has no problem saying NO and he never feels guilty about saying no either!!
Lovely! I've said #8, at #9, working towards #10. And, dang my brain already fizzed out on me but I think I still need 47 and 48 under my belt. Plus, I'm not sure I want to face my main fears. Death of someone in my immediate family (kids or husband) or the end of the world are not two things I feel like dealing with anytime soon :P One of them was also saying "I'm not sorry." Anyone else a horrible "sorry" person? It's a word I struggle to strike from my vocabulary.
ChristaCarol, I used to say "I'm sorry" for *every*thing--especially those things that weren't my fault at all (wimpy wimpy co-ed). It took me a long time to strike the phrase from my vocabulary. And now, as a mother, I'm struggling to bring it back in. Sometimes it's what my kids need to hear when I screw up so they can know I can acknowledge my mistakes. But at least I'm old enough now to know when "I'm sorry" is appropriate and when "You can't blame me for that" is.
As for the change-the-world items, I'm hoping I'm teaching my kids to be kind and open and nonjudgmental. That, to me, is what we all need to change the world.
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Great list. I'd add one thing; no.
I have a problem saying no and end up volunteering for too many things. Bad thing for a writer because it cuts into my precious writing time. Perhaps it's just a woman thing? My dh doesn't seem to have this problem.
How about, "It's okay, I understand."
Great list - & I agree with Aimless Writer. I would definitely add learning to say NO. And, yes, I think it is a woman thing because my dh also has no problem saying NO and he never feels guilty about saying no either!!
Lovely! I've said #8, at #9, working towards #10. And, dang my brain already fizzed out on me but I think I still need 47 and 48 under my belt. Plus, I'm not sure I want to face my main fears. Death of someone in my immediate family (kids or husband) or the end of the world are not two things I feel like dealing with anytime soon :P One of them was also saying "I'm not sorry." Anyone else a horrible "sorry" person? It's a word I struggle to strike from my vocabulary.
What a great post!! I'm going to share this on my blog as well!
lol. I say #6- "I love my life" every time people ask me why I HATE flying...
ChristaCarol, I used to say "I'm sorry" for *every*thing--especially those things that weren't my fault at all (wimpy wimpy co-ed). It took me a long time to strike the phrase from my vocabulary. And now, as a mother, I'm struggling to bring it back in. Sometimes it's what my kids need to hear when I screw up so they can know I can acknowledge my mistakes. But at least I'm old enough now to know when "I'm sorry" is appropriate and when "You can't blame me for that" is.
As for the change-the-world items, I'm hoping I'm teaching my kids to be kind and open and nonjudgmental. That, to me, is what we all need to change the world.
I've said over half of those things. I am a big talker though. :) I tend to say whatever I'm thinking sans too much negativity.
I'm up and down with the fifty. And learning to say "no" is a good one.
I also wish I'd said yes a few more times, too. Some situations in life can't be recreated.
Took me a long time to learn to admit when I was wrong. But my life is better for it.
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